Nokra Posted May 5, 2019 Share Posted May 5, 2019 I'm curious what the numbers are like for this question. I recently had my first definite experience with being more or less cheated on and it pretty much sucks as much as I imagined, though maybe a little bit less. The fear of the thing was once again worse than the thing itself. So I'm curious to know how common it is among D1Pers, in both directions. If you feel like elaborating, I'm happy to get the details to understand better. But I'm also interested in the numbers and it's all anonymous. For this poll I'm saying yes, I was cheated on, and no, I have not cheated on anyone. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rev Posted May 5, 2019 Share Posted May 5, 2019 Does cheating with someone count? Like having sex with someone who's cheating while you're single? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
skillzdadirecta Posted May 5, 2019 Share Posted May 5, 2019 Yes to all three... I have cheated, been cheated on and been the "other man" cheating with a woman who was married. Not proud of it and I was a lot younger, but still. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nokra Posted May 5, 2019 Author Share Posted May 5, 2019 4 hours ago, Rev said: Does cheating with someone count? Like having sex with someone who's cheating while you're single? Personally I would say no it doesn't count; to me, if you're not in a relationship you can't cheat or be cheated on. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brian Posted May 6, 2019 Share Posted May 6, 2019 Yes, No, No (that I’m aware of) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bacon Posted May 6, 2019 Share Posted May 6, 2019 No and Nope Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris- Posted May 6, 2019 Share Posted May 6, 2019 2 minutes ago, Bacon said: No and Nope You've never found your daki in another senapi's bed? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bacon Posted May 6, 2019 Share Posted May 6, 2019 Just now, Chris- said: You've never found your daki in another senapi's bed? I have never bought one. Pointless waste of money for a fucking pillow. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bloodporne Posted May 6, 2019 Share Posted May 6, 2019 I've been cheated on and been "the other man". I've never been able to cheat on anyone I was with. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bloodporne Posted May 6, 2019 Share Posted May 6, 2019 22 hours ago, skillzdadirecta said: Yes to all three... I have cheated, been cheated on and been the "other man" cheating with a woman who was married. Not proud of it and I was a lot younger, but still. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xbob42 Posted May 6, 2019 Share Posted May 6, 2019 Not yet! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mr.Vic20 Posted May 6, 2019 Share Posted May 6, 2019 Yes, I've worn most of the available roles life has to offer. I've learned a lot. Even so, I am still a dumb ass; just no longer in those ways! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Boyle5150 Posted May 6, 2019 Share Posted May 6, 2019 I never cheated, I won each and every time, fair and square. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Boyle5150 Posted May 6, 2019 Share Posted May 6, 2019 On 5/5/2019 at 11:02 AM, kittykat said: I’ve been the “other woman” multiple times lol Always the bridesmaid never the bride. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Boyle5150 Posted May 6, 2019 Share Posted May 6, 2019 Just now, kittykat said: That doesn’t even make sense in this context Yes it does, dumb dumb You think it's a choice? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Boyle5150 Posted May 6, 2019 Share Posted May 6, 2019 1 minute ago, kittykat said: You’re reaching to have it make sense like when I reach around and put my finger in your butthole. It almost works but not quite. Naw mean? works for me Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CastlevaniaNut18 Posted May 6, 2019 Share Posted May 6, 2019 Never cheated on my spouse and he's never cheated on me and I only ever dated one other person. He did cheat on me, but this was in high school and I feel like it hardly counts. I got incredibly lucky. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mercury33 Posted May 6, 2019 Share Posted May 6, 2019 Never been cheated on. Yes cheated on a girl. Don’t regret it at all because I’m married to woman I cheated with. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Boyle5150 Posted May 6, 2019 Share Posted May 6, 2019 2 minutes ago, kittykat said: YOU CAN’T STOP LOVE The Supremes say otherwise Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mercury33 Posted May 7, 2019 Share Posted May 7, 2019 3 hours ago, kittykat said: YOU CAN’T STOP LOVE Especially when you realize you only get one life. You can’t waste it living it for someone else. You need to live it for yourself. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Triage Posted May 7, 2019 Share Posted May 7, 2019 Sorry to hear that @Nokra it sucks. I have never cheated but I have been cheated on multiple times let's put it this way I never had a relationship where one didn't cheat on me. It created insecurities and honestly lots of mistrust. With that said you cannot go on with not trusting the next person you're with. Just know if someone does it's on them and you deserve better. It's also better to know than living blindly giving your best while the other person doesn't. So be glad you found out. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Triage Posted May 7, 2019 Share Posted May 7, 2019 20 hours ago, BlueAngel said: I've been cheated on once and I have never and never would cheat on someone I was with. I personally don't get when people cheat. You want something else with someone else go have fun and leave me be. But cheaters not only cheat then on top of that they lie. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mr.Vic20 Posted May 7, 2019 Share Posted May 7, 2019 26 minutes ago, Triage said: I personally don't get when people cheat. You want something else with someone else go have fun and leave me be. But cheaters not only cheat then on top of that they lie. Cowardliness or a lack of respect for other's feelings. In my case I was young and emotionally cowardly and so didn't leave my mate like I should have. I regret that. It still stings 20 years later. Won't happen again. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
best3444 Posted May 7, 2019 Share Posted May 7, 2019 I cheated with a married woman. I regret it now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mercury33 Posted May 7, 2019 Share Posted May 7, 2019 cheating isn’t typically as black and white as people would like to make it out to be. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CastlevaniaNut18 Posted May 7, 2019 Share Posted May 7, 2019 Just end it before you cheat. Seems simple enough. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Boyle5150 Posted May 7, 2019 Share Posted May 7, 2019 2 hours ago, Mr.Vic20 said: Cowardliness or a lack of respect for other's feelings. In my case I was young and emotionally cowardly and so didn't leave my mate like I should have. I regret that. It still stings 20 years later. Won't happen again. Probably* 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nokra Posted May 7, 2019 Author Share Posted May 7, 2019 3 hours ago, Triage said: Sorry to hear that @Nokra it sucks. I have never cheated but I have been cheated on multiple times let's put it this way I never had a relationship where one didn't cheat on me. It created insecurities and honestly lots of mistrust. With that said you cannot go on with not trusting the next person you're with. Just know if someone does it's on them and you deserve better. It's also better to know than living blindly giving your best while the other person doesn't. So be glad you found out. Thanks @Triage. It sucks every day a little bit less but I think I'm still a little bit in that stage where I'm questioning myself and whether there's something I did wrong that drove her to that. I can logically know that it was her decision and that it says more about her than it does about me, but it still feels a lot like a rejection. I know the trick is to get over that feeling, but that's easier said than done. I also feel a little silly for feeling this upset over it because we weren't even officially together and we hadn't even known each other very long, but still... I wanted it to work and thought that it was going well. So maybe part of the reason I'm upset is because I realized in retrospect that it was a classic case of seeing the other person through rose-colored glasses, where all of the red flags just look like flags (-Wanda Pierce from Bojack Horseman). I seem to have made a habit of this lately and it's not doing me any good. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Boyle5150 Posted May 7, 2019 Share Posted May 7, 2019 4 minutes ago, Nokra said: Thanks @Triage. It sucks every day a little bit less but I think I'm still a little bit in that stage where I'm questioning myself and whether there's something I did wrong that drove her to that. I can logically know that it was her decision and that it says more about her than it does about me, but it still feels a lot like a rejection. I know the trick is to get over that feeling, but that's easier said than done. I also feel a little silly for feeling this upset over it because we weren't even officially together and we hadn't even known each other very long, but still... I wanted it to work and thought that it was going well. So maybe part of the reason I'm upset is because I realized in retrospect that it was a classic case of seeing the other person through rose-colored glasses, where all of the red flags just look like flags (-Wanda Pierce from Bojack Horseman). I seem to have made a habit of this lately and it's not doing me any good. congratulations on the sex! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mr.Vic20 Posted May 7, 2019 Share Posted May 7, 2019 12 minutes ago, Boyle5150 said: Probably* My wife knows you are on the exception list! She calls you my "Boylefriend"! 1 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Boyle5150 Posted May 7, 2019 Share Posted May 7, 2019 4 minutes ago, Mr.Vic20 said: My wife knows you are on the exception list! She calls you my "Boylefriend"! who hasn't been much of a friend lately. We need to game! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mr.Vic20 Posted May 7, 2019 Share Posted May 7, 2019 16 minutes ago, Boyle5150 said: who hasn't been much of a friend lately. We need to game! What's your poison hottie?! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Triage Posted May 7, 2019 Share Posted May 7, 2019 @Nokra sometimes it's hard not to think what could you have done differently at least it was hard for me each time when I was young. It was either because it was a new relationship and that person wasn't sure what they wanted, my oldest daughter's father we were together since ages 16 and 17 and his curiosity got a hold of him, one during my pregnancy last couple months where I wasn't myself then my baby took over my life. But then I thought how imperfect those people were and I didn't go off fuck someone else. So question is would YOU cheat if they didn't meet your expectations or depending on circumstances? Or maybe the person made a dumb mistake in the heat of the moment. In my opinion don't dwell on what you could have done differently. The cheater would have cheated either way. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Boyle5150 Posted May 7, 2019 Share Posted May 7, 2019 16 minutes ago, Mr.Vic20 said: What's your poison hottie?! You pick Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brick Posted May 7, 2019 Share Posted May 7, 2019 Thankfully I have not been, and I also wouldn't cheat on someone. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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