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Greatoneshere

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2 minutes ago, MarSolo said:

Tinder is the one dating app I use the least. Bumble, Hinge, and Coffee Meets Bagel have a better class of women on them.

 

Then again, I’m still single so what do I know?

 

I think it entirely depends on what you're looking for, as I understand it (I've been out of the dating game for a long time). I think the three you mention are just classier apps hence the better class of women (and, hopefully, men) on those platforms vs. Tinder, which I always assumed was used to find a fuck buddy for the day/night.

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2 minutes ago, Greatoneshere said:

 

I think it entirely depends on what you're looking for, as I understand it (I've been out of the dating game for a long time). I think the three you mention are just classier apps hence the better class of women (and, hopefully, men) on those platforms vs. Tinder, which I always assumed was used to find a fuck buddy for the day/night.

 

That was my understanding as well... as someone pretty new to this dating app life, I'm still figuring this shit out. I would have never joined ANY of them if we weren't on lockdown. Now I feel like I have no choice :p

 

1 minute ago, Fizzzzle said:

Which is the one where the girl has to send a message first? Or is that not a thing anymore.

Bumble. 

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Just now, skillzdadirecta said:

 

That was my understanding as well... as someone pretty new to this dating app life, I'm still figuring this shit out. I would have never joined ANY of them if we weren't on lockdown. Now I feel like I have no choice :p

 

Hahaha it's a whole new world I imagine. How come you were against using them? Just meeting enough women organically in your day-to-day (which could very well be the case!). Just curious, etc. :)

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6 minutes ago, Greatoneshere said:

 

Hahaha it's a whole new world I imagine. How come you were against using them? Just meeting enough women organically in your day-to-day (which could very well be the case!). Just curious, etc. :)

 

I'm old school and before my last relationship, I was all about meeting women the old fashioned way... by walking up to them and talking to them or through friends or other social settings and stuff. I literally met my last girlfriend at a bar. Once we broke up and moved on from each other I had no outlet to get back out there because everything was shut down... pre pandemic, I would have been out in them streets :p Now I have to get with the times. I have my own opinions about modern dating culture but again, I have to get with the times... I have several friends who met their current partners online and one of my BEST friends got married to a woman he met on a dating app so there you go. I said I would give it a try for a bit and see what pops... but yeah, I didn't really have a problem meeting women before everything got locked down. I'm not a shy guy :p

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7 minutes ago, skillzdadirecta said:

 

I'm old school and before my last relationship, I was all about meeting women the old fashioned way... by walking up to them and talking to them or through friends or other social settings and stuff. I literally met my last girlfriend at a bar. Once we broke up and moved on from each other I had no outlet to get back out there because everything was shut down... pre pandemic, I would have been out in them streets :p Now I have to get with the times. I have my own opinions about modern dating culture but again, I have to get with the times... I have several friends who met their current partners online and one of my BEST friends got married to a woman he met on a dating app so there you go. I said I would give it a try for a bit and see what pops... but yeah, I didn't really have a problem meeting women before everything got locked down. I'm not a shy guy :p

 

Ah that makes sense! Nice work heh. Yeah unfortunately we all gotta update our methods I assume (I guess I should be grateful I'm married). I loved dating but I'm glad I don't have to vet people anymore as well haha. The diversity of sex is somewhat missed but you can't have it all. 

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28 minutes ago, skillzdadirecta said:

I have several friends who met their current partners online and one of my BEST friends got married to a woman he met on a dating app so there you go.

Same. In fact the last wedding or anything I did before the pandemic was his wedding. Met her on tinder. They're out there!

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29 minutes ago, skillzdadirecta said:

 

I'm old school and before my last relationship, I was all about meeting women the old fashioned way... by walking up to them and talking to them or through friends or other social settings and stuff. I literally met my last girlfriend at a bar. Once we broke up and moved on from each other I had no outlet to get back out there because everything was shut down... pre pandemic, I would have been out in them streets :p Now I have to get with the times. I have my own opinions about modern dating culture but again, I have to get with the times... I have several friends who met their current partners online and one of my BEST friends got married to a woman he met on a dating app so there you go. I said I would give it a try for a bit and see what pops... but yeah, I didn't really have a problem meeting women before everything got locked down. I'm not a shy guy :p

Actually this is my 'story' as well regarding dating apps. I was in a very long-term relationship and later marriage that basically ended almost exactly a year before Covid hit. I was dating a lot the old-fashioned way like yourself but that obviously came to a screeching halt and I had no other choice. My opinion on it hasn't even changed despite it generally having been real successful for me honestly...I still think it's a fucked up 'culture' but like you said, it is what it is.

 

I met my current girlfriend on Tinder and in my experience, it's really all over the place in terms of users' intent and all. We do joke about it though because Tinder does generally have a one-night-stand fuck-buddy type of reputation it seems. Though I will say Hinge seems like 'divorced soccer mom' central based on what my friend tells me. At this point, almost every person I know in a new relationship met online.

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2 minutes ago, Commissar SFLUFAN said:

 

That's the entire point!

 

No I mean in the sense it wants my info to look up another person's info. If I put in your name and city it'll lead me to a page eventually (after hinting they found something on you) ask me for all my info (name address, e-mail, etc.) to send me your info. 

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2 hours ago, Bloodporne said:

Actually this is my 'story' as well regarding dating apps. I was in a very long-term relationship and later marriage that basically ended almost exactly a year before Covid hit. I was dating a lot the old-fashioned way like yourself but that obviously came to a screeching halt and I had no other choice. My opinion on it hasn't even changed despite it generally having been real successful for me honestly...I still think it's a fucked up 'culture' but like you said, it is what it is.

 

I met my current girlfriend on Tinder and in my experience, it's really all over the place in terms of users' intent and all. We do joke about it though because Tinder does generally have a one-night-stand fuck-buddy type of reputation it seems. Though I will say Hinge seems like 'divorced soccer mom' central based on what my friend tells me. At this point, almost every person I know in a new relationship met online.

 

Out of curiosity, what is the online dating app culture that seems fucked up that you and @skillzdadirecta are mentioning? Since I wouldn't know.

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1 hour ago, Komusha said:

I'm decent looking but I'm not like a model or anything. I spent all of my adult life perfecting my humor-game which is perfect for meeting people in person, but doesn't translate to the online dating scene as well.

Boom. There's certain things that just don't translate as well online as they do in person unless you're willing to write book reports :p I'm much better in person or over the phone than I am online... also 90% of human communication is non-verbal. You're missing out on a TON of information when your primary mode of communication is through apps and texts. But again... it's the sign of the times so I've joined the cult. But I definitely prefer meeting people in "Meat space" or whatever the term is.... just saying that makes me feel icky :sick:

 

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The problem that I had with tinder eventually is that I thought the whole point was to cut out all the bullshit. Instead, I would match with someone, and I'd be expected to say something witty and clever. A line to catch a girls' attention.. I'm sure there's a name for that.

 

Eventually, if I matched with someone, all I would do is just say "hey you want to meet up at [x]?" I didn't really feel like trying to impress someone when they feel like THEY'RE the ones that have to feel impressed. That honestly probably worked more than it should have.

 

I haven't used dating apps in a few years now, though.

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11 hours ago, Jason said:

I honestly don't see how online dating is materially different/worse than meatspace dating other than it just amplifies the numbers game element of it--same shit, you just move through a lot more volume a lot quicker.

Not even close in my experience. The apps themselves are also playing all sorts of ridiculous games with their users, that's widely known anyway though. And basically what others have said already. It appears to be the same shit at face value but again, in my experience and to me at least, it felt dehumanizing and like shopping for a used car way too quickly and I just never felt that way dating out in the world. 

 

And like Skillz said too, you have to get into it at this point and I don't think it's the worst thing in the world or anything but it felt way impersonal to me. I just got really lucky with my girlfriend in that she's too busy with med school to really fuck with social media or anything and just kind of half-assed signed up like myself and she understood I was coming from the same angle. 

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