Cars are a major problem in general but we live in a damned society where it's nearly impossible to easily live a low or car free life (especially with a family!) outside of the core of a few major cities and this is due to the policy choices we have made over the last century. And that these places are massively expensive is used as proof, not that they're popular and we should make more of them, but that they're for elites (which is only true insofar as the elite who actually can afford to live in these places are trying and largely have succeeded in walling off their garden through government policy, but that's not exclusive to these areas)