So I Hosted/Cooked/Bought ALL the Food This Year

[SoberChef]

Needless to say I'm not a happy camper having to be at work for another 10+ hour long shift, only to have a kitchen full of unrinsed dishes to be taken care of.

 

 

[stepee]

I voted wrong - I wanted to vote that they would help.

[Bacon]

On the one hand, yes.

On the other hand, never have I been asked in my entire life to do dishes at a relative's. My Grandmas or Aunts have always done everything. That's how it's been on both sides of my family. The hosts do it all for the most part. If I was hosting I wouldn't ask my family to help either tho.

[stepee]

2 minutes ago, Bacon said:

On the one hand, yes.

On the other hand, never have I been asked in my entire life to do dishes at a relative's. My Grandmas or Aunts have always done everything. That's how it's been on both sides of my family. The hosts do it all for the most part. If I was hosting I wouldn't ask my family to help either tho.

 

Actually this is also true 

[Fizzzzle]

They should at least offer to help, but it shouldn't be expected tbh. 

[SoberChef]

I come from the mindset of it being the right thing. Just how I was raised you know? Even when I was a kid going to relatives for holidays, I'd not only help in the kitchen when & where I could, but also help out with cleaning up if need be. Comes off as common sense in my book, then again though, perhaps it really is about how you're raised or whatever. That being said, not like my in-laws haven't helped clean in the past, so this year with the Mrs. still so sick & suffering, you'd think at the very least?

[stepee]

Just now, SoberChef said:

I come from the mindset of it being the right thing. Just how I was raised you know? Even when I was a kid going to relatives for holidays, I'd not only help in the kitchen when & where I could, but also help out with cleaning up if need be. Comes off as common sense in my book, then again though, perhaps it really is about how you're raised or whatever. That being said, not like my in-laws haven't helped clean in the past, so this year with the Mrs. still so sick & suffering, you'd think at the very least?

 

Sounds like a particular situation where they 100% should have helped.

[Keyser_Soze]

I don't think they should be required to but they should at least offer to help.

 

Also, if they understood your situation, like if you have to work the same day as Thanksgiving, then they should definitely help there.

[best3444]

5 hours ago, Keyser_Soze said:

I don't think they should be required to but they should at least offer to help.

 

[Brian]

A couple weeks before a holiday, I assign who is cooking and cleaning so there are no issues. If people don’t want to cook or clean then we switch to ordering out.