Anybody here ever use dating sites before?

[Remarkableriots]

I was just wondering if anybody here has had any luck on dating sites? Seems like most of them are a scam.

[best3444]

Match.com worked for me. I met two women that way.

[SuperSpreader]

1 hour ago, Remarkableriots said:

I was just wondering if anybody here has had any luck on dating sites? Seems like most of them are a scam.

Yes, the results are permanent so be careful 😬

[Nokra]

I've used Tinder, Spotted, and OKCupid. I had decent success with all three of them as far as meeting women goes. None of the relationships lasted terribly long (the longest being 1 year but it should have ended much sooner) but I think that has more to do with general compatibility than the quality of person one might meet on those sites. 

 

I see them as basically just another way to meet people, no better or worse than in a bar.

[Biggie]

Try Hit It And Quit It .com

[Biggie]

1 hour ago, Rachel said:

No I’m an incel 

Hey now watch it. That’s my shtick 

[brandino]

Met my wife on Match

[Mr.Vic20]

I'm old and I've had enough mates to last a life time! 

[Jason]

2 minutes ago, Mr.Vic20 said:

I'm old and I've had enough mates to last a life time! 

 

u w0t

[Mr.Vic20]

12 minutes ago, Jason said:

 

u w0t

This seems like an accurate description of my life! 

[Mr.Vic20]

8 minutes ago, Rachel said:

r u polygamist?

I like to think of myself as a serial monogamist! 

[Mr.Vic20]

1 minute ago, Rachel said:

What’s your favorite cereal that you’ve dated?

Golden Grahams, though I would define what I do with them as a "nasty hookup" 

[Jason]

8 minutes ago, Mr.Vic20 said:

Golden Grahams, though I would define what I do with them as a "nasty hookup" 

[Mr.Vic20]

2 minutes ago, Jason said:

u w0t

[Jason]

7 minutes ago, Mr.Vic20 said:

u w0t

 

LEARN2FORMATN00B

[Mr.Vic20]

Just now, Jason said:

 

LEARN2FORMATN00B

Come on, you've known me long enough to know I won't! 

[stepee]

i’ve used them extensively to lure women into my secret chamber so they work well I guess? depends who you ask

[Jason]

1 hour ago, stepee said:

i’ve used them extensively to lure women into my secret chamber so they work well I guess? depends who you ask

 

Isn't your giant penis enough? 

[Bloodporne]

I've used Tinder for the first time in the last 10 months or so but I'm really lucky in terms of being in the NYC area. It's absolutely jam-packed with people so it's easy to hook up or go on dates. I can imagine it being difficult in less populated area since the "hit ratio" of actually talking to someone cool is very low even here. 

[BasemntDweller2]

Yahoo personals worked well for me as did MySpace. 

[SaysWho?]

OKCupid used to be good, but they changed the messaging system and made it shitty. You can no longer directly message someone as there's no inbox, and if someone does send you a "message," you'll only see it if you come across them while swiping, which removed its uniqueness.

 

I actually had success with Bumble if you're interested in using apps.

[Keyser_Soze]

1 minute ago, SaysWho? said:

OKCupid used to be good, but they changed the messaging system and made it shitty. You can no longer directly message someone as there's no inbox, and if someone does send you a "message," you'll only see it if you come across them while swiping, which removed its uniqueness.

 

I liked the change. You just have to like someone to send them a message now instead of sending a message blind.

 

Did you get mine yet?

[SaysWho?]

Just now, Keyser_Soze said:

 

I liked the change. You just have to like someone to send them a message now instead of sending a message blind.

 

Did you get mine yet?

 

Oh, you bet.  

 

The thing with sending messages whenever is that someone may have otherwise skipped past you, or never encountered you on their search, but could like your message and consider it better than some of the other weird shit they see. When I used it before meeting my current g/f, it didn't last long since I was no longer having conversations with anyone. For many people now, they'll get a notification that someone messaged them but they'll have to scroll through a list of people in hopes that they see the message, which is really just an added paragraph on their bio. 

 

Plus, the way it works now, the other person has to actively use the app. You could send a message to someone who wasn't swiping a ton and get noticed. It just removed what made it unique.

[Keyser_Soze]

If you got messaged it generally floats around the top of your list or in the double take. Also, you get an indicator on their name that they messaged you.

[SaysWho?]

2 hours ago, Keyser_Soze said:

If you got messaged it generally floats around the top of your list or in the double take. Also, you get an indicator on their name that they messaged you.

 

Yeah, I wish I had that experience.  

 

From what I understand, OKCupid was bought by Match, so maybe they just want to drive people to the stuff you have to pay for. Which would be SHOCKING!

[Keyser_Soze]

3 minutes ago, SaysWho? said:

Which would be SHOCKING!

 

[p00ndawg]

i got married via okcupid and have 2 kids now.  although this was 8 years ago and online dating was still new. idk how well it holds up today.

[Jason]

1 hour ago, SaysWho? said:

OKCupid used to be good, but they changed the messaging system and made it shitty. You can no longer directly message someone as there's no inbox, and if someone does send you a "message," you'll only see it if you come across them while swiping, which removed its uniqueness.

 

OkCupid got bought by the same company that owns Match and Tinder a while back. I'm convinced they're intentionally ruining OkCupid to try to force people into paying for Match.

[Jason]

1 hour ago, SaysWho? said:

 

Oh, you bet.  

 

The thing with sending messages whenever is that someone may have otherwise skipped past you, or never encountered you on their search, but could like your message and consider it better than some of the other weird shit they see. When I used it before meeting my current g/f, it didn't last long since I was no longer having conversations with anyone. For many people now, they'll get a notification that someone messaged them but they'll have to scroll through a list of people in hopes that they see the message, which is really just an added paragraph on their bio. 

 

Plus, the way it works now, the other person has to actively use the app. You could send a message to someone who wasn't swiping a ton and get noticed. It just removed what made it unique.

 

The fact that they also completely removed the ability to get an idea of when someone was last online makes me think they must be trying to hide having a lot of dead accounts. I can understand taking away telling you EXACTLY when someone was last online but they should have at least put it down to the same granularity they let you filter on (online now, online within the last day, online within the last week). Between that and taking away open messaging it actually increases the proportion of shitty messages people are gonna send. If I don't know if I'm messaging a dead account, and if I don't know if the person will ever know I sent the message even if they're an active account, why am I going to waste my time writing anything thoughtful?

 

Plus you still see girls' profiles with stuff like "I can't see likes, so send me a message." They've clearly broken the site so that it no longer works the way their users expect it to.

 

And the blog post justifying all these changes was so insulting. A small percentage of their user base said they were having problems so they ruined it for everyone, and the justifications they gave...ugh.

[Keyser_Soze]

21 minutes ago, Jason said:

 

The fact that they also completely removed the ability to get an idea of when someone was last online makes me think they must be trying to hide having a lot of dead accounts. I can understand taking away telling you EXACTLY when someone was last online but they should have at least put it down to the same granularity they let you filter on (online now, online within the last day, online within the last week)

 

Well I'd imagine if you filtered your search to "Last online: In the past week" or "online now" that would give you a good idea of when they were last online.

[Jason]

3 minutes ago, Keyser_Soze said:

 

Well I'd imagine if you filtered your search to "Last online: In the past week" or "online now" that would give you a good idea of when they were last online.

 

Except that's not the only way to find people. They're pushing people toward using the Tinder-like experience and with that you have absolutely no idea if they were online a day ago or a month ago.

[Keyser_Soze]

12 minutes ago, Jason said:

 

Except that's not the only way to find people.

 

Not the only way, but the best way.

[Mercury33]

No never because meeting and talking to women isn’t hard. They’re literally everywhere you look. 

[Biggie]

7 minutes ago, Mercury33 said:

No never because meeting and talking to women isn’t hard. They’re literally everywhere you look. 

But none of them are good enough for me

[skillzdadirecta]

I've never used one as I prefer to meet people the old fashioned way... by talking to them. No knock against folks who DO use them though. One of my best friends met his wife on EHarmony I think... They've been married for six years and have two kids now.