RIP in Peace, stepee. We'll miss you.

[Andrea]

11 minutes ago, Bacon said:

I'll edit it, but I found the full dates from Google after I got his name. Just like how I know your last name from the same site

I figured. And that’s fine, my name has never been a secret nor his lol. It would just make his parents more comfortable to not have it out there more than necessary. 

[Best]

1 hour ago, Biggie said:

I picked up a sympathy card and I’m going to write something to his family. I feel like I should do this not for me but for them. He was a cool dude. I’ll let you know when I mail it @Commissar SFLUFAN

 

@Commissar SFLUFAN I decided this is something I want to do as well. I just need you to pm me your address then. 

[Best]

Just now, Andrea said:

I figured. And that’s fine, my name has never been a secret nor his lol. It would just make his parents more comfortable to not have it out there more than necessary. 

 

Especially because of his financial situation. You are being smart. 

[Andrea]

11 minutes ago, Bacon said:

The main reason I included the full info is cuz it looks empty without it.

 

In Memory of:

Stepee

1982 – 2024

*Tech Enthusiast, Bear Lover, Friend*

that’s cool don’t worry. You didn’t do anything wrong. 
 

[Andrea]

Just now, Best said:

 

Especially because of his financial situation. You are being smart. 

yeah and a good part of his case is public record too so his parents just want to be careful 

[Commissar SFLUFAN]

2 hours ago, Best said:

 

@Commissar SFLUFAN I decided this is something I want to do as well. I just need you to pm me your address then. 

 

You need to clear out some of the PMs in your in-box for me to send you one.

[Best]

4 minutes ago, Commissar SFLUFAN said:

 

You need to clear out some of the PMs in your in-box for me to send you one.

 

Ok I deleted a few. Should be ok now. 

[Bacon]

I got PMs going back 6 years (would have more RIP old D1P) and my inbox is only 16% full lol

[Best]

10 hours ago, Bacon said:

I got PMs going back 6 years (would have more RIP old D1P) and my inbox is only 16% full lol

 

I honestly don't know how I managed to get my inbox that full? 

 

At any rate Wade never sent me his address so it's no big deal I guess....

[Keyser_Soze]

I propose a small change from this

 

17 hours ago, Bacon said:

*Tech Enthusiast, Bear Lover, Friend*

 

To this

 

17 hours ago, Bacon said:

*Tech Enthusiast, Bear, Lover, Friend*

 

[Commissar SFLUFAN]

30 minutes ago, Best said:

 

I honestly don't know how I managed to get my inbox that full? 

 

At any rate Wade never sent me his address so it's no big deal I guess....

 

Just sent it to you.

[Biggie]

8 hours ago, Best said:

 

I honestly don't know how I managed to get my inbox that full? 

 

At any rate Wade never sent me his address so it's no big deal I guess....

I kept telling you it wouldn’t let me send you any direct messages lol. I’ve got the address I’ll send it to you. 
 

EDIT: nevermind I see where Wade sent it. 

[Best]

2 hours ago, Biggie said:

I kept telling you it wouldn’t let me send you any direct messages lol. I’ve got the address I’ll send it to you. 
 

EDIT: nevermind I see where Wade sent it. 

 

I didn't see this until now. Yea, Wade sent me the address.

[CastlevaniaNut18]

@Commissar SFLUFAN my letter will be in the mail tomorrow.

[Biggie]

Dropped my sympathy card in the mail this morning. @Commissar SFLUFAN

[Best]

2 hours ago, Biggie said:

Dropped my sympathy card in the mail this morning. @Commissar SFLUFAN

 

I'm going to try and get it out today before 3pm. 

[AlwaysDyingX]

So I'm slacking on getting my card and thoughts on paper. My mom was in the hospital for a week but she is home now and all is well.  I'll get it out this week. 

[SaysWho?]

I typed out what I wanted to say last weekend and just finished handwriting it on a card. It shall be sent out before I leave for work.

[HardAct]

Things just feel depressing here on the forums since Stepee's death. Many know we lost our oldest son now 5yrs ago and this just hit me pretty hard. Its unexpected as I didn't know him. That's true, but I can tell he was a genuine person and a good friend to those he called friend. Knowing how hard this hits parents has really depressed me all over again. I also don't do social media in anyway shape or form except for these boards. I just can't do Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, ticktock, etc,etc and i NEVER HAVE. I'm older tan most here and i really love pc building, graphics tech and love gaming even though I don't play much anymore. I'm shocked how hard an guy on a message board online has hurt me. I can't help thinking of his family as I know its the worst thing ever, EVERi!

 

Ill be back around again, this place is very important to me. Ill ask quickly if there was ever a given reaso n for his passing? Maybe its not my business but I just can't easily stop thinking of him and all the good he used his positions and situations for. Being older these all just hit harder maybe because I have lost both parents my wife's parents too and a 30 year old son with 3 kids. Ill get better I just need a little bit of time, something that took a few weeks to even hit me. Weird and I really hope your all safe ad your loved ones are safe and we'll talk soon I'm sure...

[Best]

2 minutes ago, HardAct said:

Things just feel depressing here on the forums since Stepee's death. Many know we lost our oldest son now 5yrs ago and this just hit me pretty hard. Its unexpected as I didn't know him. That's true, but I can tell he was a genuine person and a good friend to those he called friend. Knowing how hard this hits parents has really depressed me all over again. I also don't do social media in anyway shape or form except for these boards. I just can't do Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, ticktock, etc,etc and i NEVER HAVE. I'm older tan most here and i really love pc building, graphics tech and love gaming even though I don't play much anymore. I'm shocked how hard an guy on a message board online has hurt me. I can't help thinking of his family as I know its the worst thing ever, EVERi!

 

Ill be back around again, this place is very important to me. Ill ask quickly if there was ever a given reaso n for his passing? Maybe its not my business but I just can't easily stop thinking of him and all the good he used his positions and situations for. Being older these all just hit harder maybe because I have lost both parents my wife's parents too and a 30 year old son with 3 kids. Ill get better I just need a little bit of time, something that took a few weeks to even hit me. Weird and I really hope your all safe ad your loved ones are safe and we'll talk soon I'm sure...

 

You're an important part of this forum and it's been very tough on most of us here. I appreciate your posts on here. I know you lost a son so my heart always goes out to you and your family.

 

There hasn't been any word on how stepee passed away. 

[Andrea]

15 minutes ago, HardAct said:

Things just feel depressing here on the forums since Stepee's death. Many know we lost our oldest son now 5yrs ago and this just hit me pretty hard. Its unexpected as I didn't know him. That's true, but I can tell he was a genuine person and a good friend to those he called friend. Knowing how hard this hits parents has really depressed me all over again. I also don't do social media in anyway shape or form except for these boards. I just can't do Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, ticktock, etc,etc and i NEVER HAVE. I'm older tan most here and i really love pc building, graphics tech and love gaming even though I don't play much anymore. I'm shocked how hard an guy on a message board online has hurt me. I can't help thinking of his family as I know its the worst thing ever, EVERi!

 

Ill be back around again, this place is very important to me. Ill ask quickly if there was ever a given reaso n for his passing? Maybe its not my business but I just can't easily stop thinking of him and all the good he used his positions and situations for. Being older these all just hit harder maybe because I have lost both parents my wife's parents too and a 30 year old son with 3 kids. Ill get better I just need a little bit of time, something that took a few weeks to even hit me. Weird and I really hope your all safe ad your loved ones are safe and we'll talk soon I'm sure...

It makes sense you are hurting. You lost someone you got to know here over many years, and it reminds you of your own major losses. Sending love and hugs to you. 

[SaysWho?]

My letter was picked up yesterday by USPS and should be arriving at @Commissar SFLUFAN's place this week, I'd assume!

[cusideabelincoln]

@Commissar SFLUFAN 

May I have your address? I should be able to send a letter tomorrow. I've known what I've wanted to say but I have had no idea how to start one. I think I'm ready now.

[Commissar SFLUFAN]

4 minutes ago, cusideabelincoln said:

@Commissar SFLUFAN 

May I have your address? I should be able to send a letter tomorrow. I've known what I've wanted to say but I have had no idea how to start one. I think I'm ready now.

 

Just sent it to you.

[Andrea]

In one week I’ll be heading to San Francisco for the spreading of Stephen’s ashes and his celebration of life. It’s hitting me so hard that this is coming up so soon

 

Part of me is terrified for how difficult it may be and the hard feelings that could come up. It’s starting to make the wound feel almost fresh again. Part of me is also thinking it will be really nice in a way, to meet his family for the first time after hearing so much about them over the years. I’m hoping it will make me feel more connected to him.

 

I’m sure it will be bittersweet overall with lots of pain. I’m just nervous. And terribly sad.

 

Anyway I will keep you all updated and share with you how it goes 🧡🧡🧡. 

[Biggie]

Where are they spreading his ashes? @Andrea

[SaysWho?]

13 hours ago, Andrea said:

In one week I’ll be heading to San Francisco for the spreading of Stephen’s ashes and his celebration of life. It’s hitting me so hard that this is coming up so soon

 

Part of me is terrified for how difficult it may be and the hard feelings that could come up. It’s starting to make the wound feel almost fresh again. Part of me is also thinking it will be really nice in a way, to meet his family for the first time after hearing so much about them over the years. I’m hoping it will make me feel more connected to him.

 

I’m sure it will be bittersweet overall with lots of pain. I’m just nervous. And terribly sad.

 

Anyway I will keep you all updated and share with you how it goes 🧡🧡🧡. 

 

Can't guarantee anything but my guess is it'll be really rough, but sometimes that roughness is cathartic because everything can be let out. Did this in 2016 when the waterworks came when I saw my friend in an open casket, her face still smiling somehow.

 

It was not an experience I'd want to relive, but it's one I'm glad I did. To this day, I feel close with her family and share a space on the board of her scholarship, and I can see getting close happening with you considering you already have contact with some of his family.

[Andrea]

42 minutes ago, Biggie said:

Where are they spreading his ashes? @Andrea

SFO. Not sure if his family wants the exact location out there for privacy reasons but I’ll share more after it happens. 
 

5 minutes ago, SaysWho? said:

 

Can't guarantee anything but my guess is it'll be really rough, but sometimes that roughness is cathartic because everything can be let out. Did this in 2016 when the waterworks came when I saw my friend in an open casket, her face still smiling somehow.

 

It was not an experience I'd want to relive, but it's one I'm glad I did. To this day, I feel close with her family and share a space on the board of her scholarship, and I can see getting close happening with you considering you already have contact with some of his family.

I’m so grateful there will be no casket or anything like that. Just cremated remains. I don’t ever want to see a dead body irl, especially of someone I know and care about. It sounds like too much. 
 

Thank you for sharing your experience and giving an idea of maybe what to expect. The silver lining definitely has been connecting with his family. It’s been so nice to talk with them especially his mom. I see some of his personality quirks in her and her intelligence and big heart reminds me of his. That’s super nice you got to be close with your friend’s family too and help out on the board of her scholarship! 

[SaysWho?]

1 minute ago, Andrea said:

SFO. Not sure if his family wants the exact location out there for privacy reasons but I’ll share more after it happens. 
 

I’m so grateful there will be no casket or anything like that. Just cremated remains. I don’t ever want to see a dead body irl, especially of someone I know and care about. It sounds like too much. 
 

Thank you for sharing your experience and giving an idea of maybe what to expect. The silver lining definitely has been connecting with his family. It’s been so nice to talk with them especially his mom. I see some of his personality quirks in her and her intelligence and big heart reminds me of his. That’s super nice you got to be close with your friend’s family too and help out on the board of her scholarship! 

 

Yeah, a casket can really put the exclamation point on the event; it's easy to get into the acceptance phase when you see them, but... you still have to see them. At the same time, I feel like the urn/ash would still make me sad.  

 

Meeting her family is probably one of the silver linings even if I'd prefer to still be close with her and have her meet my fiancée and have her at my wedding. But now they get to come to the wedding, so I don't know. Everyone processes grief differently, so your experience will be unique, but being able to develop relationships with family of the person you lost is an amazing feeling. One thing I'm pretty sure of is that you'll find some meaning to it, even if it's hard.

[Commissar SFLUFAN]

@Keyser_Soze - I received your card in the post today.

 

I'm going to collect a few more before sending them off to his family.

[Commissar SFLUFAN]

Are we all agreed that the dedication that I'll send to Kyle is:

 

In Memory of:

Stepee

1982 – 2024

*Tech Enthusiast, Bear, Lover, Friend*

 

[Best]

40 minutes ago, Commissar SFLUFAN said:

@Keyser_Soze - I received your card in the post today.

 

I'm going to collect a few more before sending them off to his family.

 

I'm sending mine out tomorrow afternoon. Hopefully that isn't too late. 

[Commissar SFLUFAN]

4 minutes ago, Best said:

 

I'm sending mine out tomorrow afternoon. Hopefully that isn't too late. 

 

It's not too late at all.

 

I'm not sending them off until I receive the cards/letters from you @Biggie @CastlevaniaNut18 @SaysWho? @cusideabelincoln @AlwaysDyingX

[cusideabelincoln]

Dropped mine in the mail today.  It didn't seem like I typed much in notepad, but writing it out by hand took up more space. Also realized it's been a loooooooooong time since I've written more than two words by hand at a time.

[Biggie]

10 hours ago, Commissar SFLUFAN said:

 

It's not too late at all.

 

I'm not sending them off until I receive the cards/letters from you @Biggie @CastlevaniaNut18 @SaysWho? @cusideabelincoln @AlwaysDyingX

Will you let us know when you’ve received them?